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6 Tips To Get Beyond The Buffer Zone To The Intentional Zone

Simon Reilly | December 3, 2018 | Filed: Time Management

6 Tips To Get Beyond The Buffer Zone To The Intentional Zone

Has The Buffer Day, coined by Dan Sullivan and Wayne Cotton become outdated?

A Buffer Day is a neutral day serving Free Days – time off, and Focus Days – client appointment days.

A Buffer is a neutral area serving to separate two opposing forces.

Are we unable to find a Buffer because we are too overstimulated?

Before we go further; do you remember the introduction to The Twilight Zone?

“It is a dimension as vast as space and as timeless as infinity. It is the middle ground between light and shadow, between science and superstition, and it lies between the pit of man’s fears and the summit of his knowledge. This is the dimension of imagination. It is an area which we call The Twilight Zone.”

You could say a Buffer is the middle ground between light and shadow, between science and superstition, and it lies between the pit of man’s fears and the summit of his knowledge.

Personal and professional development has made The Comfort Zone into a bad thing; a place or situation where one feels safe or at ease and without stress. And yet there are times when we must act beyond our comfort zones.

But in today’s world, are we not in The Overstimulated Zone most of the time?

In today’s world, with so many choices, with so little space, we have to find different ways to find The Intentional Zone, the space between stop and go, sleep and work, expansion and contraction, because what is happening is, we go like hell and collapse.

Collapsing into exhaustion isn’t relaxing.

In today’s world we have to find ways to self-regulate through self-compassion versus self-esteem.

Self-esteem comes from the mind and self-compassion comes from the heart.

Self-compassion is more to do with feeling than thinking.

Self-compassion supports less mindless desires, less stress, more relaxation, less fight or flight, and more freedom. There is more freedom to arrive at, unfold and dissolve emotions that are probably not serving one’s vision and goals; more freedom to understand where one exits from their heart where inspiration lives.

There is so much talk about mindfulness and mindset; the mind is too overwhelmed and overworked to the point of decision fatigue.

Mindfulness and mindset must give way to kindfulness and self-compassion or there will be no mind left.

If you want to be and do more, you have to be more, not only do more.

You have to learn to get comfortable with both expansion and contraction.

It takes kindfulness, self-compassion, heart strength, and courage to slow down, and to do this we must get into heart-based feelings and give the mind a rest.

The best ways to rest the mind is through breathing, meditation or yoga.

To some, breathing, meditation or yoga seem surreal.

Back in the day, we had no problem watching The Twilight Zone. The Twilight Zone – A state of surrealism, where things that should not make sense seem to do so. So why not breathing, meditation or yoga?

Some are terrified of breathing, meditation or yoga and look at it as some form of taboo. I think not as one can affirm the following while practicing breathing, meditation or yoga; God, Christ & The Holy Spirit.

I’ve been practicing breathing, meditation and yoga for decades. The more I practice, the more rest, space and time is created. What would appear surreal is, I have a greater capacity to attract and create opportunities.

This has led to the notion of The Intentional Zone – making space and time to create an online product and a thought leading presentation for GAMA LAMP in March of 2019. My current projects are requiring concentration like never before.

Buffer Zones of the mind are combined with Intentional Zones of the heart.

There is an expression; “the excitement of the climb gets eliminated by the mind’s fear of the heights.”

The best way to rest the mind is through breathing, meditation or yoga.

Creating a conscious break, applying the brakes, keeps one from crashing.

Whether one feels boredom, confusion, frustration, or loneliness, everything is here to help us evolve, and embraced through practices of breathing, meditation or yoga, gratitude will help us get there.

When we slow down, we return to our original state of mind, one breath at a time, grieving the old and welcoming new beginnings.

Greg Johnson
Greg JohnsonJohnson Insurance
Belle Plaine IA
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