False Expectations Appearing Real
September 30, 2009 by Simon · 1 Comment
You have no doubt heard this example of an acronym for FEAR;
- F alse
- E xpectations
- A ppearing
- R eal
As long as you give tse false expectations power by focusing on them, they will become real as The Law Of Attraction is absolute, you attract what you focus on or as John Kehoe said; “thoughts are real forces”.
How can one focus on there vision when dominated by what might happen?
Where there is no vision, the people perish. – Proverbs 29:18
Everyone has a unique vision or calling and this is unavoidable. You have two choices; fulfill your unique vision or calling or become the living dead, living your life and business life, day to day just hoping to get by. Why do we avoid our unique vision or calling?
- F alse
- E xpectations
- A ppearing
- R eal
Fearing that the granddaddy of all unmet needs, that the unmet need of worthiness and our unique vision or calling will not be good enough.
One thing to know about fear; “Fear reaches only to the point when the unavoidable begins; from there on, it loses its meaning. And all we have left is the hope that we are making the right decision.” – Paulo Coelho – The Fifth Mountain
You have three choices, to hope for; to Thrive, Deny or Survive. You will create whatever you focus on.
“We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars” – Oscar Wilde
Time Management Re-Visited Part 2
August 14, 2009 by Simon · 1 Comment
13 Simple Steps to Time Management – Part 2
7. Eliminate Busy Work
People are often too busy with busy work and this creates a huge distraction from paying attention and focusing on goal achieving actions.
Instead of taking action on their specific goal at a specified time they fill their time with what they justify as things that are routine versus what is important.
What they are saying is, “I haven’t created the discipline of stopping myself periodically throughout the day and asking if this is the most effective way to spend my time.”
This is the time to get one of those alarms on your watch or computer to keep you on track when you have made a decision to work on a specific goal at a certain time.
If you get distracted;
- Stop doing it
- Find someone else to do it
- Record it on a list to schedule for future action
- Forget it
8. Schedule Time In Advance and Ask What Is Going To Distract Me?
It’s that time of the week again and it is coming time to write my newsletter. In fact the time is scheduled. Well in advance I ask myself, is there anything that I need to do that is going to distract me from writing the e-newsletter?
A variation of the above is;
- Record it on a list to schedule for future action
- Find someone else to do it
- Stop doing it
- Forget it
You will find that as you get more and more into the habit of focusing on action steps towards your goals, the minor things will not be that important anymore. I think that it was Tony Robbins that said, ‘People major in minor things’.
9. Form Time Boundaries
As a business owner, I am fortunate enough to be in charge of my own time and it is not that often that I must accommodate the schedule of others.
There are many people that are not totally in charge of their our own time and they are accountable to; partners, associates, employers, family members and friends.
We are often interrupted by other people’s priorities.
The next time that you are interrupted by someone making a request for you to do something …
Ask yourself (not them), is this life and death? If the answer is Yes then take action. If the answer is No then I suggest the following.
Person Requesting You To Do Something: I want your help to do _____________.
Your Reply: I am happy to help you, right now I’m in the middle of a project and need 100% concentration to complete it. Would you like me to stop what I am doing? What is the deadline that you need your task done by?
(You may find that by forming a boundary on your time the person that is making a request may realize that you are busy with something that is more important than what it is they are asking you to do. If the person replies with the deadline, then let’s assume that they still want your help.)
Person Requesting You To Do Something: I need it by 10 am tomorrow.
Your Reply: Great I’ll schedule it in for tomorrow morning and I’ll have it ready for you.
(This simple system leaves you with time boundaries and gives you the feeling that you are in charge of your own time versus being a victim. I will expand on time boundaries in forthcoming issues.)
10. You Say You Have No Time – Then Where Is Your Time Going?
To answer the question of where is your time going, start tracking and logging your time daily for a least a week. Track your time by writing down the exact time that you begin each activity, write a few words about what the activity is about and write down the exact time that you end each activity. I suggest that you write down everything. If you begin an activity and in the middle of it, you decide to answer e-mails or the telephone, then write down the exact time that you began and ended the e-mails or the telephone calls. This requires you to be 100% honest about what you are spending your time on. If you take 8 minutes to make a cup of coffee then write down 8 minutes. Forget about being perfect writing down your time in 15 minute increments.
11. Review and Summarize Your Time
At the end of the week, review your time records and summarize your activities and the amount of time spent on each. Create your activity categories and you can have anywhere from 6 – 20 categories. They should be meaningful to you. Examples of Business categories are; Planning, Administration, Clients, Computer, Financing, Marketing, Office, Product Development, Sales, Team & Training. Examples of Personal categories are; Planning, Auto, Clothing, Home, Storage, Financial, Health, Hobby, Intellectual, Family, Friends, Spouse, Spirit & Travel. Next summarize how much time you spent on each activity on a daily and weekly basis and determine the percentage of time that you are spending on each activity. The key is to become aware about where you are spending your time.
12. Start Time Blocking
With your newfound time awareness in mind and taking your priority activities into consideration, start to schedule your major activities into the highest energy, productive parts of your day. For me, early mornings are my best and that is when I write my e-newsletter. Take a look at all the similar activities that you do and group them into time blocks. For me the e-newsletter falls into the category of writing so this includes; web site edits and additions, e-newsletters, blog and product development. You can start to time block your e-mails and phone time together. What about errands? How about meetings so that you block them into time when you are out of the office. What about e-mailing people that you have to have a meeting with and requesting a telephone meeting and letting them know that you can talk with them on the phone at either 3pm or 5pm? The key here is that you will be empowered because you will be in charge of your time.
13. Your Daily Calendar / To Do List
I believe in writing out my daily calendar so that it is a page at a glance. There is something powerful about the power of the written word. The power of the written word causes me to commit.
On an 8 1/2 by 11 sheet of paper I divide the page into 3 equal columns.
The first column is my daily schedule from 5 am – 10 pm to schedule the live and telephone appointments that I have committed to.
The second column is for what I must do that day. I group the activities into similar activities, estimate the time required and then schedule.
The third column is for what I would want to do that day. These are miscellaneous items that are still a priority that will only take a few minutes to follow up on. I often do these while traveling or waiting for appointments.
One thing to remember. Do not block out 100% of your time. Leave 1 – 2 hours of buffer time so that you can still handle those inevitable interruptions.
Time Management Re-Visited Part 1
August 13, 2009 by Simon · Leave a Comment
13 Simple Steps to Time Management – Part 1
1. What are your beliefs about time?
Are you saying?
- I don’t have enough time
- There is too much to do
- I’ll never get it all done
Whatever you believe, you are right.
This reminds me of a quote from John Kehoe, author of Mind Power. ‘Thoughts are real forces’.
What if you were to adopt the belief of;
- I have an abundance of time for anything that I am committed to doing!
In your journal, draw two columns on a page, make a list of all of the limiting beliefs that you have about time in the left column.
In the right column, write down the antithesis or opposite positive belief to the negative belief.
Practice focusing on the positive beliefs on a regular basis.
You can do the same process with your goals also.
2. Plan Your Day
- Make a list of everything you have to do every day
- Prioritize the list into A’s, B’s, and C’s
- Do the most important things first, the second most important things second, the third things third
3. Do Your ABC’s
- A’s are the things that you must do today
- B’s are the things that you would like to do today
- C’s are the things that are not essential for you to do today
4. Check in every 15 minutes
To make sure that you are on track, every 15 minutes ask yourself; Is what I am doing right now taking action towards the intended outcome of my goal?
Some people go so far as to setting an alarm on their watch or computer to keep them on track.
If the answer to the question is no then;
- Stop doing it
- Find someone else to do it
- Record it on a list to schedule for future action
- Forget it
5. Form The Habit Of Allowing 5 to 15 Minutes To Review Your To-Do List
They say it takes 21 days to break a bad habit. What if, for the next 21 days, you formed the habit of allowing yourself 5 to 15 minutes at the beginning of your day, every single day, to review your list – add to it, subtract from it, and re-prioritize it.
Dedicate 5 to 15 minutes to;
- Make your to-do list
- Prioritize it into A’s, B’s, and C’s
- Estimate the time to compete each to-do
- Schedule the to-do in your diary
- Complete the to-do.
6. Use A Week At A Glance 24/7 Diary
For me personally, I find that I like to be able to view my schedule for the entire week. All I have to do is review my to-do list, prioritize it, estimate the time and schedule the time into my Week At A Glance 24/7 Diary.
Vancouver Ranks First For Net Worth
July 21, 2009 by Simon · Leave a Comment
I’m behind the times as Vancouver as been proclaimed the First For Net Worth over Calgary. Here I was thinking all along that Toronto was the center of the universe.
A pic over the cowl, the exhaust pipe and the propeller from the co-pilot’s seat in a Twin Otter Float Plane. I’m leaving Vancouver and heading to Nanaimo on Wednesday morning July 15th after a breakfast meeting with the COI’s from a national financial advisor firm to discuss financial advisor speaking, financial advisor workshops, financial advisor manager coaching and financial advisor coaching. You can see the Lion’s Gate Bridge looking across to West Vancouver.
I’ve just come off of investing all of my extra time over the past two weeks in building the Leading Advisor Workshop and Coaching GYM for a private client and I hope to have a public version of the Coaching GYM to launch for September.
I invested Monday in getting caught up with e-mails and getting back on top of my projects that include writing July’s E-Newsletter.
Coaching GYM
- Unlimited E-Mail Access to Simon Reilly
- E-Lessons
- Audio Lessons
- Monthly ¼ Hour Phone Call with Simon Reilly that can be booked using and automated appointment booking on-line software
- Monthly group coaching calls
- E-Coaching Follow Up to your E-Lessons, E-Mails and Progress Reports – this means I am with you every step of the way reading your E-Lessons, E-Mails and Progress Reports and Responding with; Articles, E-Lessons, Feedback, Forms, Insights and Tough Love
- Weekly Progress Report ( Automated )
- A Private On Line Forum
Well If You Had A Dream Like Mine
July 14, 2009 by Simon · Leave a Comment
Monday, July 14th at 1:40pm and powering through writing a PowerPoint and workbook for the workshop that I am delivering on July 16th and Bruce Cockburn’s “If You Had A Dream Like Mine” is on the radio.
Robert Gignac will be here at 6:30pm and Laura and I will take Robert for dinner. Robert is visiting us after speaking at a National Freedom 55 Event over the weekend in Victoria.
Robert has referred me to the decision makers for the MDRT event in Vancouver 2010 and the contact wants the following today ( Monday ) for a Tuesday meeting;
Dear _________,
I’m following up on Robert Gignac’s MDRT speaking referral.
Thank you for taking the time to consider me as a speaker for the MDRT.
Please find the answers to the following questions at the bottom of this e-mail.
1. Full name of person you are suggesting
2. Address
3. Email
4. Phone number
5. What is this person’s “claim to fame” the message for the audience.
I hope to have the opportunity to be of service.
Simon Reilly
5. Create Sustainable Success by Understanding The Plateauing Out Syndrome - Curing The Unmet Needs Disease
I’ve delivered the core of this message coast to coast across Canada to 12,000 financial advisors at over 100 financial advisor speaking presentations over the past 36 months and more notably at larger Advocis Chapters in Victoria, BC, Calgary, AB, Regina, SK, Saskatoon, SK, Ottawa, ON Toronto, ON, Moncton, NB and St. John’s NL. Click here for Speaking Testimonials.
Please note that I offer a pre-presentation interview to find out what the issues are that the audience is facing and create a customized presentation.
Finally, while I am more than pleased with our web site speaking folio and testimonials, the show reels on the web site are over a year and a half old, and do not do justice to the speaking testimonials and the quality of the speaking.
Create Sustainable Success by Understanding The Plateauing Out Syndrome - Curing The Unmet Needs Disease
No matter what milestone is championed, sooner or later, even the most successful financial advisor will get to a place where they say, “Is this all there is?”
While unmet needs like approval, recognition and safety propel the financial advisor to advanced levels of success, like the grain of sand that forms the irritant in the oyster that becomes the beautiful pearl in the end, the unmet need like the grain of sand is still irritating the financial advisor.
The unmet needs that propelled the success have not been met and deep down these incomplete unmet needs of approval, recognition and safety generate an array of limiting beliefs such as, “people don’t appreciate me”, and “this is not good enough”, and “there is something missing and I can’t put my finger on it” which are often compounded by negative emotions.
Trouble is, unmet needs cannot be met from outside things like; awards, money, possessions or relationships. Unmet needs must be met from within, and meeting these unmet needs are the cornerstone of discovering ones’ values which are the true foundation of ones’ success.
The challenge, values are like turtles, they only come out when it is safe and unmet needs will dominate a persons values until they are met.
When values are realized one is fulfilled from within by delivering their values to all whom they serve, not because they need it.
My speaking presentation shows the audience the steps on how to cure their unmet needs and re-associate to the values, positive beliefs and positive feelings that will inspire them to go forward.
Working Weekend Confession
July 11, 2009 by Simon · Leave a Comment
It’s Saturday morning and I’m confessing that I’m likely going to be working Saturday and Sunday mornings/early afternoons and I’m just taking a moment to celebrate the successes that we are experiencing … at the same time, this writing will spur me on as it is sunny and going to be near 30° C today.
I’m working completing a workshop, PowerPoint, workshop manual and coaching gym for delivery on July 16th.
Even though I’m working the weekend, I’m truly inspired for a number of reasons;
- Laura’s Mom Helen is here for a weekend visit
- I laid off of writing what is going on with us in business and personal blogs for the entire week and all the business blogs are already written for next week
- A Staycation from June 29th – July 3rd and enjoyed; barbeques, boating on Sprout Lake, cycling, mini golf, peace of mind, puppy class, walking Shadow, visiting my Mom Irene and yoga – click here for Staycation Pics
- Completely on track with our vision
- Ended the week by Emptying My Head and office cleanup
- Robert Gignac of Wealth Is A State Of Mind is coming to visit us on Monday afternoon and a messy office would not do
- Bob personally referred us to the MDRT for Vancouver 2010
- Jeff Comiskey of Succession Strategies Inc. and Advocis London Chapter President referred us to six other Ontario Advocis Chapters
- An exceptional week of coaching calls and we are doing more and more consulting work
- Reminded to re-visit Dragon Voice Recognition Software after putting it aside five years ago … this is spurred on with receiving a Coaching Call Client Prep Form from a client that was done in Dragon
- Reminded to re-visit Skype after putting it aside a few years ago after receiving a client call from Europe
- A new client started
- Financial Advisor Speaking Update sent to Life Insurance and MGA Companies
- Booked Advocis Trail, BC and London, ON for financial advisor public speaking
- A July 15th breakfast meeting booked in Vancouver with two COI’s from a national financial advisor firm that can sponsor financial advisor public speaking, workshops, manager coaching and financial advisor coaching
Best of all, the work on completing the workshop, powerpoint, workshop manual and coaching gym for delivery on July 16th which we are doing with Kim Black, our Coaching IT Master is preparing the foundation for us to launch a public financial advisor coaching gym that includes;
- Unlimited E-Mail Access to Simon Reilly
- E-Lessons
- Audio Lessons
- Monthly ¼ Hour Phone Call with Simon Reilly that can be booked using and automated appointment booking on-line software
- Monthly group coaching calls
- E-Coaching Follow Up to your E-Lessons, E-Mails and Progress Reports – this means I am with you every step of the way reading your E-Lessons, E-Mails and Progress Reports and Responding with; Articles, E-Lessons, Feedback, Forms, Insights and Tough Love
- Weekly Progress Report ( Automated )
- A Private On Line Forum
We are hoping to launch a Free Beta Version in our July E-Newsletter for the month of August to create a September Strong Start.
Change Too Soon
July 7, 2009 by Simon · Leave a Comment
“You cannot do a change too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late.”
I’m starting with the man in the mirror
I’m asking him to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you wanna make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself and then make a change
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